Shichida

I've just finished Shichida's book on prenatal education. What do I think of it? Frankly, I don't know. The book is in Chinese, so there were some parts where I just browsed through (I'm not a huge fan of Chinese language). Also, the book does not seem to be based on research. He just says if you do this, babies will be like that etc. Where is the research? There are lots of testimonials, stories from parents who have tried his method. Their babies can remember things that happened when still in the womb, their babies give them easy labour, coming out using their (baby's) own strength and at the accurate weight on the date the parents tell them to......

Ok, I admit I still am a bit skeptical. I guess I'm the type where I have to see it to believe it. There are parts which I agree though, like talking to your baby, meditating, doing mental imaging, not giving the baby stress etc. I'd definitely try these methods IF I ever get pregnant. But that's still a long way to go, I'll let you know how it turns out. =)

Recorder

The other day I showed the recorder to my class, and asked them to choose what song they want me to play, having in mind children's songs like Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star, or Mary Had a Little Lamb.

Little A requested, Teacher, can you play Mozart? LOL. I told him, Sorry, I don't know how to play Mozart. He then requested for Beethoven. I told him I don't know that, either. And he hummed the tune for me.

Haha, kids.

Tiger Mama

I've recently read the Battle of the Hymn of a Tiger Mother. For those who have not heard of it, it is a memoir of how a Chinese mum raises her children, how she constantly forces them to practice their musical instruments (even when they're travelling), how she only expects the best of them.

Well, what do I think of the book?

It is certainly a page turner. This mum is the kind that people love to hate. I even wondered how her husband can stand her. But on the other hand, she does have some good points when she is comparing "Chinese parenting" with "Western parenting". Of course, these terms are vague and overgeneralize, but you get the gist. Being in a culture where we are "Chinese" but are taught "Western" values in the early childhood education field such as raising children's self esteem by praising them for every little thing they can do, not using negative words such as it's WRONG, it makes me wonder whether the "western" way overprotects children.

I guess the key to all of these is BALANCE.

At first I wondered, if her Tiger Mum parenting is wrong in so many ways, how come her kids turned out great and would do what she did? Well, after reading some interviews and articles about her, (they're everywhere!) I know why. It is because she did not write the whole truth in her book. The book is just about how she is the tiger mum. She states in interviews that her husband does the "western" part of parenting, having fun etc etc. She just left that part out.

Anyway, if you read the book, you'll find that her Tiger Mum parenting only worked on her elder daughter. For her second daughter, she eventually gave in and allowed her daughter to choose what she wanted. That says a lot, doesn't it. Each individual is different and you can't expect the same from every child.

It is indeed a good read, so do get it if you haven't yet!

Brain Rules

I am currently teaching in Beaconhouse, and as Beaconhouse is the education partner for the "Brain Rules for Parents & Educators", I had the opportunity to listen to the wonderful John Medina for Free! (Thanks, Beaconhouse!)

It was an enriching experience listening to the talk. One major thing I learnt is that there is still so much about the human brain that WE DON"T KNOW! But I shall share with you some things learnt that we do know, and is proven by research.

1. Learning involves Crystallized intelligence and Fluid intelligence, and as with all things, there must be a balance between the two.
Crystallized intelligence is the ability to remember/memorize something. Like it or not, learning involves rote learning. To be "successful" in learning, you definitely need to have good memory!
Fluid intelligence is improvising/making creative associations of the info as soon as the brain receives it.

2. It is important to teach your kids how to deal with FAILURE.
It is WRONG to praise your child like this: You got an A! Good job! You're so smart!
Why? Because when you praise your child for his innate ability, he will see it as, If I score an A, it means I'm smart. If I fail, it means I'm STUPID. They do not understand  why they have failed and will see errors as personal failings.
This is how you should praise your child: You got an A! Good job! You must have worked really hard!
Appealing to their effort allows for growth. Your child then sees it as, If I score an A, it means I worked hard. If I fail, it means I Did Not Work Hard Enough! They perceive errors as problems to be solved.
So, parents and teachers, teach them how to handle failure. We don't need to protect them from failure, but we need to teach them how to face these failures properly.

3. Emotional Stability of the Home directly affects children's academic performances.
How your kid turns out depends on how you reacted when your kids' feekings run hot/ intense.
This is how you should react when your kid is angry, upset, disappointed, frustrated...
FEARLESS - Don't be afraid of what others think. You don't need to be embarrassed if your child throws tantrums in public. Don't all children do that at one point or another? Your priority is your child.
Firstly, set behavioural rules in "stone" and consistently explain them.
You must always be form in your rules, but always make sure you explain them. If your child wants to reach for the vase, instead of saying "NO", say "DANGER! You might get hurt"
Secondly, be aware of children's emotions and help them verbalize them on a consistent basis.
Help your child name his feelings. He wants his teddy bear but it's not here right now? Tell your child, I know you are feeling FRUSTRATED. You miss your teddy bear now, don't you? It's OK to feel frustrated. (Don't we, too, feel frustrated when we don't get what we want?)
Thirdly, exhibit consistent empathic behaviour.
Comfort your child. See things from a child's point of view. Surprisingly, your child will feel better in a while. =)

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John Medina has authored two books: Brain Rules and Brain Rules for Baby.