I've recently read the Battle of the Hymn of a Tiger Mother. For those who have not heard of it, it is a memoir of how a Chinese mum raises her children, how she constantly forces them to practice their musical instruments (even when they're travelling), how she only expects the best of them.
Well, what do I think of the book?
It is certainly a page turner. This mum is the kind that people love to hate. I even wondered how her husband can stand her. But on the other hand, she does have some good points when she is comparing "Chinese parenting" with "Western parenting". Of course, these terms are vague and overgeneralize, but you get the gist. Being in a culture where we are "Chinese" but are taught "Western" values in the early childhood education field such as raising children's self esteem by praising them for every little thing they can do, not using negative words such as it's WRONG, it makes me wonder whether the "western" way overprotects children.
I guess the key to all of these is BALANCE.
At first I wondered, if her Tiger Mum parenting is wrong in so many ways, how come her kids turned out great and would do what she did? Well, after reading some interviews and articles about her, (they're everywhere!) I know why. It is because she did not write the whole truth in her book. The book is just about how she is the tiger mum. She states in interviews that her husband does the "western" part of parenting, having fun etc etc. She just left that part out.
Anyway, if you read the book, you'll find that her Tiger Mum parenting only worked on her elder daughter. For her second daughter, she eventually gave in and allowed her daughter to choose what she wanted. That says a lot, doesn't it. Each individual is different and you can't expect the same from every child.
It is indeed a good read, so do get it if you haven't yet!
